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Saturday, January 7, 2017

The Store Name That Got Away

My son was home for a visit from out-of-state over the holidays. We were having a casual conversation on the couch when I mentioned how much I liked a blanket he had brought with him. He told me he bought it at Bath Pro. I had never heard of that retailer. "Is that a chain like Bed, Bath, and Beyond?" I asked. He gave me a strange look and said, "Yeah, for hunters." That confused me for a moment, then I realized his camo pattern blanket came from Bass Pro. When I explained what I had thought he said, we got a good laugh out of it.

Monday, September 26, 2016

ALDAcon Day Three - part two

This is the final installment of my experiences at the national convention for the Association of Late Deafened Adults (ALDA) held in Brookfield, Wisconsin, September 14-18, 2016. Since my last post, I changed my mind about writing about the dinner plans that didn't work out. Instead, I'm going to share about the Saturday night karaoke party and the Sunday morning Farewell Breakfast. All photos in this post are by convention photographer Ken Arcia and used with his permission.

The karaoke party is an ALDAcon tradition which I had heard about but never experienced before. I was very much looking forward to it! In the photo above, I am singing "If I Could Turn Back Time" by Cher with friends from ALDA Chicago. I had never sung karaoke before and I have to admit that sometimes the words just passed me by. I didn't know the song as well as I thought I did! Later on a group of us got back on the stage to sing "I've Got Friends in Low Places" by Garth Brooks. This time (in the photo below) I'm in the back row on the far left, only partially visible. 

We held balloons so we could feel the music through the vibrations on the surface of the latex. The volume in the room was LOUD. Foam earplugs were available for those of us with residual hearing to protect.

Elvis was in the house!

At midnight, we all gathered round in a circle and clasped hands to sing "The Wind Beneath My Wings", the traditional closing song of ALDAcon karoake nights. Then, some of us went upstairs to get some sleep and others went out to a local restaurant for an after party. I knew I had an hour's drive ahead of me the next day, so I chose to return to my room. I heard later some people had an after party after the after party which continued until about 5 a.m. Party animals!

At 8 a.m. the next morning, we had a Farewell Breakfast. In the photo above the crowd is "deaf applauding" my newcomers group. I hadn't known it in advance, but it's customary for the newcomers to come up to the microphone to share their experiences at the con. I managed to get those that were there up to the front and I stood close by for support as they shared their remarks. As you can see from the photos below, it was an emotional moment. I was very glad I had the opportunity to serve as Newcomers Chair for the convention and get to meet all these great people. I hope to see them again at next year's con.

Saturday, September 24, 2016

ALDAcon Day Three - part one

This is the third installment of my experiences this past week at the national convention for the Association of Late Deafened Adults (ALDA) held in Brookfield, Wisconsin. I was involved in this event as the Newcomers Chair and as a workshop presenter.

Saturday, September 17
Today was the day for my second presentation of the convention. I was excited to share my material on the subject on how to communicate effectively with someone who is deaf or hard of hearing.

In my workshop, I provided background information about hearing loss, discussed three behaviors a speaker can use proactively to make communication easier for the listener, hosted a Family Feud style game to brainstorm ideas for coping with the problem of background noise, and explained what to do when misunderstandings occur.

I realize that by presenting at ALDAcon, I was preaching to the choir, as they say. To my knowledge there was only one hearing person present in my audience. All the same, I received positive feedback such as this comment from my friend John Garvey on Facebook, "The communication workshop you gave not only put things into context but what can be done to communicate better was tangible....I can use it!" People also asked for the links to the resources I used so they could share the information with others. I was thankful for all my friends from ALDA Chicago who showed up to hear me speak as a sign of support, some of them having already heard the beta version of my presentation the previous year!

I was thrilled that two people I admire, outside of ALDA Chicago, chose to attend. In this photo taken afterwards, I am standing with John Waldo and Rebecca Herr. John Waldo is the lawyer who successfully litigated a lawsuit against major theater chains to force them to provide captioning access. John's work was an inspiration for my Show Us the Captions advocacy campaign in 2012. I wanted to follow up on what he had done and get people out to the movie theaters and using the access now available. When he commented online that the campaign was a good idea, I was empowered to make it happen.

John shared two pieces of advice with me after my presentation. He said to include in my section on social bluffing that people should NEVER pretend to understand when dealing with law enforcement. He also told me that when mentioning someone, it is helpful to place the context of that person ahead of their name. For example: librarian and blogger, Sarah Wegley rather than Sarah Wegley, librarian and blogger.

Rebecca Herr is an advocate I met at the 2011 ALDAcon in Indianapolis. I had surprised her back then by telling her I had come to the con just to meet her, after reading her bio in the program book. She graciously allowed me to have my photo taken with her. Fast forward five years to the Milwaukee con. I passed Rebecca in the hallway and she remembered me. She told me that she was pleased to see my name in the program book this time and that she was coming to hear me speak. When she said that, I felt like I was walking on air!

She did even more for me. She sat with me at two of the meals and shared samples of the work she has been doing in the past year. Earlier, I had been raving about her to my roommate and when she gave me the handouts, I turned to Michelle and said, "See! This is why I admire her so much!" Rebecca has wonderful skills for advocacy and I know I can learn much from her as a role model. I plan to stay in touch with her and share her materials with my ALDA Chicago chapter with her blessing.

Pat Graves, the CART reporter for my presentation, suggested that I could do this presentation for human resource personnel at large corporations. An idea like that had never occurred to me and I'll have to give that some thought and see how that kind of connection might be made. Diana Thorpe, one of the interpreters, said that she could tell I enjoyed public speaking and that I ought to continue making presentations. I have not yet received the audience evaluations, but Kathy Evans, Program Chair, told me they were unusually positive. I deeply appreciate the affirmation I received from this very supportive group of my peers.

photo by Ken Arcia

At Saturday's Inspiration Luncheon, we heard Richard Brown, retired chief judge of the Wisconsin Court of Appeals, share his story of coping with hearing loss. I was moved by his speech but his words meant even more to Michelle, who had undergone the same surgery as Judge Brown. 

In my next installment, I will write about dinner plans that went awry and the awesome karaoke party that followed.